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30
Jul
2014

EM Lynley’s Bound For Trouble

I’m so excited to have EM Lynley back on my blog today. Her newest release Bound For Trouble is out and I can’t wait to read it. Y’all know how I am with BDSM in my books and this is one is bound to be a good one. If you missed when EM was on my blog previously, you can read her guest post here. Today I will be sharing an excerpt from the book that you can’t read anywhere else. Be sure to read it because it’ll make you want to buy the book! At the very bottom you have a chance to enter for a $15 Dreamspinner Press gift card.

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29
Jul
2014

Silvia Violet’s Unexpected Trust

Y’all know that I love Silvia Violet’s books. Plus she’s a total sweetheart too (and she’s from North Carolina like me!) so you know that just means I’m a big ball of fangirl here today. Her newest book, Unexpected Trust, which is the sequel to Unexpected Rescue is out now! If you love action and hot military men, then this story is for you! If you missed Silvia’s interview for her previous book If Wishes Were Horses, you can check it out here. But today we get to talk hot military men. After the interview you can read all about the book, plus get an excerpt that you won’t want to miss. At the very bottom you can enter for a chance to win a $20 ARE giftcard!

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18
Jul
2014

Jennifer Cie’s Down On The Other Street

Jennifer’s newest book, The Other Street, is out now. It’s a collection of five short stories that I know you’ll want to read. I got a chance to interview Jennifer and it was so much fun. After the interview you can see all of the details about the book, plus an excerpt of one of the stories. At the very bottom you can enter for a chance to win an e-copy of the book.

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17
Jul
2014

Liz Borino’s Secrets In The Air

Posted in: Blog Tour

I am so excited to be a part of this tour. I am a big fan of Liz’s books and her latest, Secrets In The Air, is no different. I just know you’re going to love it. I also had the chance to interview Liz which was so much fun. After the interview you can see all of the details about the book. Plus read an excerpt that I know will make you want to read the book right away. At the very bottom is a giveaway for one of two copies of the e-book or one of two copies of

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16
Jul
2014

Cardeno C’s In Your Eyes

Posted in: Blog Tour

I am bouncing off the walls with excitement y’all. I have the pleasure of interviewing Cardeno C on my blog today. His latest release, In Your Eyes, is out now and is part of the Mates series. If you have not read anything by Cardeno C yet, you need to. He truly has a book for everyone. After the interview you can read all the details about the book, and an excerpt that would surprise me if it didn’t make you go buy the book right now.

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15
Jul
2014

Tara Lain’s The Pack Or The Panther

If you haven’t read this book yet, you really should. The Pack Or The Panther is the first in Tara Lain’s Tales of the Harker Pack series and it is good! Not only is it out in e-book and paperback format, it has just been released on audiobook as well. So really you can read this book in any format you want. Below you can see all of the details about the book, plus read an amazing excerpt. At the very bottom is a giveaway for either an audio or one of two e-book copies of the book.

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14
Jul
2014

S.A. McAuley’s Damaged Package

Oh my gosh! Y’all have no idea how excited I am to be a part of this book blast. First, if you haven’t read any of her books yet, you pretty much need to stop reading this blog and go buy one. It’s ok, I’ll wait here while you do. Oh good, you’re back! Now that you’ve done that, you should know that she’s also a really cool girl. I had the opportunity to sit with her at one of the events at GRL last year and it took me way longer than I’d like to admit for me to realize who she was (don’t judge!). She was so easy to talk to. Her newest book Damaged Package, is out now. You really should check it out. I know I can’t wait to read it. Below you can read all of the details about the book, plus read a great excerpt. At the very bottom is a giveaway for a signed copy of the book (open internationally too!)

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11
Jul
2014

Secrets of Neverwood Anthology

I am excited to have the authors from the Secrets of Neverwood anthology here today. This story is all based around guys from the same foster mom. I had one of the authors here previously, G.B. Lindsey, and you can check out the information here on that tour. But if you haven’t checked out this anthology I suggest you do. It sounds so good and I love that all of the stories are connected with shared pasts. See all of the details of this anthology and at the very bottom you can win an e-copy of all the stories in the anthology.

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10
Jul
2014

Toni Griffin’s Forbidden Mate

Have you read Toni Griffin’s Mates series? The last book in the series, Forbidden Mate, is now out. Today I get the pleasure of interviewing Toni and if you don’t hear my fangirling for where you are then you just need to get a little closer to your screen. After the interview is over, read all of the details about the book and read an amazing excerpt that I know will make you want to read the book right now. At the very bottom is a giveaway for an e-copy of the book or a $10 Amazon giftcard.

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08
Jul
2014

BDSM Blog Hop | Because BDSM Isn’t Violent Or Abusive

Posted in: Blog Hop

A few months back I saw a post scroll by in my Facebook feed that I had to go back and make sure I read correctly. Apparently there was a group that was pushing their beliefs that anyone that lived some variation of a BDSM lifestyle was in a violent and abusive relationship. Grace R. Duncan posted a link to the survey they had created that was so clearly biased it was laughable. Well, it would have been if it weren’t such a horrible viewpoint to have. Of course I went to the survey and let them know, in the nicest way I could, where they could shove their assumptions that someone that enjoys having pain with their pleasure is being abused. Or any other variation of the BDSM and Kink community there is. That’s one of the best parts of that community. That there is truly nothing WRONG with the way you play. Sure, I may not get pleasure from someone else’s ideas of kinky. But as long as they are playing by three main tenants of Safe, Sane, and Consensual, then no one will tell them it’s wrong.

I don’t normally talk about my personal life and never my past. But because it’s relevant, I will just this once. The reason that I got more steamed about the situation is because I’ve been in a violent and abusive relationship before and BDSM had absolutely nothing to do with it. All of the scars from that relationship are sadly internal ones. The worst part of all is that he never laid a finger on me. Does that make the relationship any less abusive or violent? Some say yes, some say no. For me, it’s that much harder to bear because I wasn’t the stereotypical abused girlfriend saying she got a black eye by falling into a closed door.

Back to how BDSM plays into all of this. I stayed with him for as long as I did because of the way certain things (birds, bees, sex and love) were explained to me when I was a teenager. There was nothing wrong with how it was explained. Nothing wrong with how I felt at the time. But once I was with him it became that much harder for me to get out because of that. Also because I was still learning about my own sexuality at the time and didn’t fully understand sex and everything that went along with it.

I came to learn later in life that I am submissive. I dare anyone to tell me that I’m weak and see how fast you fall on ass, bless your little heart. At the time of getting out of the relationship though I wasn’t ready to accept all of that about myself. The word was used in a passing conversation I had with someone I knew at the time and I immediately shut them down because I wasn’t weak and I sure as hell wasn’t going to let someone hit me, especially after the way I had just been treated when NOT physically hurt.

Of course in the deepest part of my mind back then some of those words and ideas stuck with me since I had learned some of what DIDN’T work in sex during that horrible first foray into it. However I didn’t learn until much later in life what submission and domination, plus the other aspects of BDSM and kink were all about. Boy did that change my life for the better.

Once I understood what it was all about, did some actual research into the topic and met people that were already in the lifestyle, it’s like a light bulb went off inside. That piece that was missing was there all along, I just had to figure it out on my own.

So, if you are in an abusive relationship, please find a way out and find the help you need. If you are in a BDSM relationship, then I am glad that you have found what you are looking for. If you are what I lovingly refer to as “vanilla”, again I am glad you have found what you are looking for. But just because you don’t understand it, doesn’t make it abusive, or violent.

I’d like to thank Grace R. Duncan for setting up this amazing blog hop. Also Vicktor Alexander for sort of pushing her into doing it (in the most loving way possible of course). Be sure to check out the other posts on the tour. You can see all of the links for the rest of the hop at the hop landing page here. There are tons participating in this amazing hop so read more and learn about some of the different aspects of BDSM.

 

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